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Using a discipleship checklist

11/25/2014

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In their book, Switch, Chip and Dan Heath share a fascinating story about Dr. Peter Pronovost, who developed the holy grail of “checklists” in the medical community. Patients in ICU units have intravenous lines put in to deliver medications. Pronovost observed that when lines are not properly established, nasty health complications resulted in infected lines. This was tragic because all of this is preventable. By introducing an easy five-step checklist before inserting the lines, Pronovost revolutionized ICU treatments. Over an 18-month period, Michigan ICU units nearly eliminated line infections, saving hospitals an estimated $175 million dollars, and in the long run saving about 1,500 lives. The Heath brothers’ assessment of this story is simple:  Checklists can be game changers that save lives.

Whatever your primary discipleship environment is (Sunday school, small group, huddle, etc.), you need to begin to ask: What is your checklist?  If you do not have one, how will you determine if your present environment is healthy and working to its God given capacity to further the kingdom of God? In my present ministry context, our checklist can be defined in what we call three core directions. We want our groups to be moving upward, inward, and outward. These directions have been greatly influenced by Mike Breen’s work found in Building A Discipleship Culture. So why these directions?  These directions guide us to the destination of what it means to be true disciples of Jesus Christ.

Upward - In our quest to be disciples of Jesus Christ, we must consistently direct our lives upward. Everything Jesus did in ministry flowed from His intimate connection with his Father. John’s Gospel tells us “the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” (John 5:19) Jesus’ upward rhythm with the Father should be our model. Therefore we must we ask ourselves: Is my group developing this same upward rhythm?  Do we allow spiritual disciplines such as prayer, study, worship, etc. to draw us to these two pivotal questions:  “What is Jesus calling me to do?  And what am I doing about it?” When we faithfully walk into those two questions and respond, the kingdom of God naturally advances, and disciple making occurs.

Inward - A small group is an ideal context for our emotional and spiritual health. The early church was a compelling example of this truth: Great investment in a few equals greater kingdom impact.  Jesus had twelve disciples, and these twelve not only impacted one another, but those around them and eventually, the world at large. In particular, the “inward” rhythm of small groups directs us to sincerely invest and care for each member of our group. The inward checklist challenges us all to care for two of the greatest words found in the New Testament over fifty times: “one another.” Do our groups consistently strive to love, accept, serve, encourage, forgive, etc. “one another,” just as Christ has cared for us? We must never forget that our love for one another will prove to the world that we are Jesus’ disciples (John 13:35).

Outward - A disciple not on mission is an oxymoron. Our identity is as ones who are sent (John 20:21-22). Most of us have heard this call, desire to fulfill it, but often question how to do so. Being in community is key.  As Alan Hirsch states, “the most vigorous forms of community are those that come together in the context of a shared ordeal or those that define themselves as a group with a mission that lies beyond themselves-thus initiating a risky journey.” Every small group has to determine how they are going to proactively and reactively serve those around them. Jordan Elder defines proactive mission “as mission by design,” whereas reactive mission can best be understood as “mission in the moment.” With whom are your groups proactively partnering? Are you partnering with a local missions partner, a school, or neighborhood? Likewise, each group must evaluate how they are reactively responding to the spontaneous needs that arise around them. When groups take seriously the call to proactively and reactively be on mission, the Gospel will fill our lives and be on display (Col 3:16-17).

Take The Time To Check The List!  From both experience and conversation with my small group leaders in the trenches, I often find that most groups are only able to live into 2 out of 3 of these directional rhythms.  When this happens, we are out of balance and will wobble though life according to Breen. So the question should be asked:  Which direction is your group not heading towards, and how can you start moving that way?  Checklists are beneficial because they challenge your group to move in new and unique ways–in ways that breathe new life thorough them! When groups choose to periodically grab the checklist, and intentionally walk in the rhythm of Christ (upward, inward, outward) they will observe life change naturally happening. In the end, they will begin to notice disciples being made. And when this happens, we can easily agree with Dan and Chip Heath’s assessment that checklists can be game changers that save lives!

This post was written by Rev Eric George.  For the original post, go to:  http://seedbed.com/feed/discipleship-checklists-way-need-head/


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The Walking Dead Gospel

10/18/2014

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Last Sunday night over 17 million people gathered around the glow of their TV screens to watch a mishmash of human characters scrape a survival out of a world overrun by the walking dead.

The show is aptly titled, The Walking Dead. However, week after week, this zombie infested drama has proven to be less about the dead and more about humanity… or the lack there of.

It’s no secret. This weekly 42-minute drama is offering something that resonates with America; because it’s not only breaking records for viewership, beating out everything else cable or broadcast… it’s trumping Sunday Night Football! (And what’s more American than that?)

And when the show stops, the chatter doesn’t. The Twittersphere lights up with favorite quotes of the evening, questions, and plot speculation. Social Media begins buzzing. Dedicated fans even devote another hour to the subject at hand the same evening, watching The Talking Dead, a talk show where actors, producers and celebrities (this week it was Conan O’Brien) unpack what they’ve just seen and ask questions like, “Was Tyreese right when he killed Martin?”

And that’s the beauty of the show. No other show cultivates so many water cooler conversations about morality.

That’s probably why The Gospel According to the Walking Dead blog emerged. Conversations about morality open doors to conversations about Biblical truth. Every week this blog provides conversation, scripture and discussion questions unpacking the prior week’s episode.

Consider the dissection of good and evil in the Season 5 Premiere this past Sunday. Tyreese, one of the lead characters who has been carrying and protecting a baby through the post apocalyptic chaos much of last season, becomes engaged in a conversation with a sociopathic killer named Martin:

Martin: I don’t have any friends… I used to have em. I used to watch football on Sundays. I went to church. (Chuckles) I know I did. But I can’t picture it anymore. It’s funny how you don’t even notice the time go by. Horrible sh*t just stacks up day after day. You get used to it.

Tyreese: I haven’t gotten used to it.

Martin: Of course you haven’t. You’re the kind of guy who saves babies.

It happens every week. Humans are put in situations where they have to make choices. And the audience can’t help but wrestle with the morality.

Was he right?

I’ve met countless parents who watch it with their teenagers. When the show ends, “you just want to talk about what you just saw.”

I don’t know. Do you wish your kids wanted to talk with you about morality?

This post was written by Jonathan McKee.  The original post can be found here:  http://www.patheos.com/blogs/afewgrownmen/2014/10/god-and-the-walking-dead/

For resources for talking to your teenager about The Walking Dead, complete with discussion guide, go to:  http://www.thewalkingdeadgospel.com/2014/season-5-episode-1-sanctuary/#.VEA39L69G99



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7 Ways to Create a Climate for Hearing God’s Calling within the Local Church

10/16/2014

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Our Lord directly and unequivocally instructed his followers to pray for one specific need—workers for the fields white unto harvest. If we are not intentional in including that need in our individual and corporate prayer life, we risk hindering His work around the world.

As I visit churches throughout the United States to assist them in discovering and advancing their unique missional calling, I find very few that are praying for and expecting God to call missionaries from within their congregation. They seem oblivious to the directive Jesus gives to His followers in Matthew 9:38 to “pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.” I have also witnessed occasions where God calls someone and the congregation is surprised and sometimes even saddened at the prospect of having one of their own leave the church to minister some other place.

Clearly, Jesus connects the fulfillment of the need for workers in the harvest fields with prayer by His followers. Could he enlist the needed workers without that prayer? Of course, He could. However, He does tell us to pray and any attitude or action that dismisses His instruction could have a negative effect on the advancement of His kingdom.

One of the primary reasons for the absence of prayer for workers is a failure to create a climate in the church that elicits such prayer and the expectation that God will respond. Believing that every local church should be praying for and expecting workers to be called from their midst, let me to suggest the following seven ways a church can begin to create an atmosphere for that to happen:

1) Pastors should pray regularly, specifically, and publicly for God to call workers for His harvest field out of the church family.  Jesus is still Lord of the harvest. He is still calling laborers and the congregation needs to see, hear, and live in that expectation.

2) Include world awareness in preaching, teaching, newsletters, bulletins, church displays, the website, and other communication devices that are used.  Too often, out of sight, and hearing, is out of mind. Remind people of the need for God’s redemptive work in current events and the spiritual/social realities people face.

3) Illustrate sermons and teachings occasionally by using experiences of missionaries.  This assumes relationships with missionaries exist such that stories are readily available.

4) Present mission/outreach in the children’s and youth curriculum and provide opportunities to put that teaching into practice.  Awareness of God’s mission should be provided early and often.

5) Provide short-term opportunities to get involved.  It’s important that members of the congregation to be involved in real-time, hands-on mission work locally, nationally, and internationally.

6) Bring missionaries into the church to share their calling and ministry with the congregation.  Give them more than just a platform from which to speak; give them an opportunity to interact and build relationships within the congregation.

7) Have the children and youth leaders present mission work as a viable career option.  All young people wonder what they will be when they grow up. Most will never think of missions as a future job without the church informing them.

These are only beginning steps. However, if taken, there is little doubt a new awareness and attitude will arise and the church will reach a point of eagerly anticipating His callings and rejoicing when they occur.

This post was written by Seedbed author Stan Self.  For the original post, go to:  http://seedbed.com/feed/7-ways-create-climate-gods-calling-within-local-church/



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How God used 21 men to awaken their pastor

10/15/2014

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One night, I was about to turn off my bedside lamp when my wife turned to me and gently, but firmly, asked, “Does anything bring you joy anymore?”

Since she knew the answer, I just turned out the light and eventually drifted off to sleep.

Quite honestly, during those days, I was desperate. This is not what I signed up for, I kept thinking to myself.

For more than 15 years, I had been the lead pastor of what my denomination would consider a successful church. However, I couldn’t shake the thought that something was wrong with how we measured success. Where in the scriptures do we find the measure of success as the number of people who attend an event where one person dominates the experience? Where does it say that true success is connected to the number of people who become members of your church by profession of faith, or by the amount of money given weekly?

In comparison to most churches, we were doing well in all three of these North American benchmarks. The problem was that I felt like the CEO of an organization instead of a pastor who was developing and making disciples.

Days later, as I was sitting in afternoon traffic and reflecting on my upcoming class at our church, the question came into my mind, Why don’t you offer your class for men only?

I had taught “How to study the Bible” many times and had always opened the class to anyone who wanted to learn more about studying and obeying the scriptures. Typically the participants were women, and the few men who attended would almost always hold their questions until after class. They evidently didn’t want to reveal their inability to navigate or understand the Bible.

I could never have imagined what God was about to do in and through the men who walked into the room that first Wednesday evening. After a brief introduction, I said, “I would like to hear from you. What do you need most from this class? What would you like to accomplish during our weeks together?”

Immediately, a man raised a three-inch-thick Study Bible and boldly pronounced, “I’ve been told I am supposed to be the spiritual leader in my family, but I feel my wife is far ahead of me and I am holding her back.” From across the room, another man chimed in, “I’m right there with you, brother!” For the next few minutes, I experienced a pastor’s dream – men being honest with themselves, each other, and with their pastor about their personal struggles when it comes to how to study and apply the Bible to their daily lives.

For the next 12 weeks, the class progressed from entry-level basics of Bible study to developing lesson plans for use in a family or small-group setting. As we were concluding our journey, a number of the men voiced their desire to continue. As I heard their pleas, I made a commitment to them that has affected me to this day.

I said, “I believe God is using you men to awaken me to what the Lord has been saying to me for months regarding His mandate to focus my attention upon making disciples instead of attempting to build His church. Therefore, I will commit 60-90 minutes with you each week, one-on-one, one-on-two, or one-on-three, pouring into your life what God has invested in mine through these past 40 years of attempting to follow Jesus. But I want you to commit that time in your schedule as well, and then be willing to pass on to at least one other man what God is pouring into you.”

If five of the 18 men had been interested, I would have considered it a win. However, I was scheduling 12-15 discipling appointments weekly, which included 21 men opening their lives as we shared life-on-life through a series of discipleship principles in scripture. For the next 30 months, I had the privilege of having a front-row seat as I watched God begin to transform the lives of these men into men who resolved to follow Jesus as His disciples.

There is a Chinese proverb that says, “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago; the second best time is now.” It took 20 years as a pastor and 21 willing men to help me experience what I had truly “signed up for” when I said yes to God’s call on my life: developing people into disciple makers. Now I have the honor of training pastors, missionaries, and church leaders around the world as I share the essential steps of becoming a disciple-making follower of Jesus.

I just wish someone had awakened me to Jesus’ mandate 20 years earlier.

This post was written by Denny Heiberg of Seedbed.  For the original post, go to:  http://seedbed.com/feed/god-used-21-men-awaken-pastor/

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Doing all you can do

4/28/2014

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Perhaps you know of someone who has poured his or her life into someone in need only to have that person continue to make bad life decisions. All the love, money, prayer and encouragement that is possible to flow from one person can never seem to guarantee good results. I know two people in this very scenario right now. The Lord has been so faithful to answer their prayers -- only to see the person upon whom God has graced continue on what seems like a bad path.

What do you do when you've done all you can do? For some reason that one, quite perplexing question reminds me of a passage of Scripture, though the context may seem out of place: "and having done all, stand" (cf. Eph. 6:13). Paul, instructing us in times of personal battles of how to be "strong in the Lord and in the strength of his power," encourages us to take up the whole armor of God, "so that you may be able to withstand on that evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm" (Eph. 6:13 NRSV). But what does he mean by stand?

When trials and trouble come, we tend to fall apart, not stand; we tend to fall or break down, not stand firm. We battle, however, not from a place of potential failure but on the rock solid foundation of all that Christ Jesus accomplished for us. Our battles, if you will, actually belong to the Lord -- He will fight on our behalf. The ultimate war of good and evil, light and darkness, life (eternal) and death (eternal) has already been won by Christ. 

When we encounter various trials, we do so from the perspective that our Conquering King has already won the victory. We are seated with (and are united in) Christ in the heavenlies (Eph. 1:3, 20; 2:6). What we battle now is the mere aftermath of the sin nature and some brazen rogue devils (who are given a measure of free will in our sovereign God's world). Still, we are called to the Fight, but our landscape and prospect are not as they once were.

What do you do when you've done all you can do? You stand -- stand in full assurance of the goodness, faithfulness, and promises of God to you in Christ. You stand -- stand still and know that He is God, that He alone can change the circumstances. You stand -- on your knees, continuing to pray, relying on Him to make a path where none yet seems possible. You stand -- firm in your faith, not wavering, because you realize that only God can make the difference. You stand -- in reality, realizing and confessing your own limitations, while you rely faithfully and solely by trust in God's limitless abilities. 

You can't change the world; you're not God. You're not in control of the life and heart of any individual. You have a difficult enough time trying to keep yourself in line -- you can't make anyone else make right choices. Do what you're called of the Lord to do and leave governing the universe to Him. 

Yes, that individual may be breaking your heart. Yes, you hate to see all of the consequences of the bad choices that are being made. You don't know whether to cry or cuss -- and perhaps you've tried them both! Maybe you want to give up. But giving up in the midst of the struggle never truly solved any bad situation. You must, for your own sanity and sanctification, realize that you can only do so much. When you have done all that you can do, stand. 



This post was written anonymously.  The original post can be found here:  http://credendum.weebly.com/1/post/2014/04/doing-all-you-can-do.html


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Encouraging children decreases misbehavior

1/24/2014

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Where did we ever get the crazy idea that the way to make a child "do" better is to first make him or her "feel worse"? That is the premise of punishment; and it is truly crazy. Think of the last time you felt scolded and humiliated by another adult. Were you thinking, "This is so helpful. I really appreciate it. I will now do so much better, and I can hardly wait to consult you will all my problems." Unlikely. The truth is that children (and adults) do better when they feel better. 

A theme of Adlerian psychology is that a misbehaving child is a discouraged child. The most powerful motivation for change is encouragement. If a child—or adult—misbehaves out of discouragement, it follows that the motive for misbehavior is removed when he or she feels encouraged. 

Many years ago I decided to test this theory. My two-year-old son had been whining and I was so annoyed I felt like spanking him. Instead, remembering the concept of encouragement, I knelt down, gave him a hug, and told him how much I loved him. Not only did he stop whining and crying, but my annoyance magically disappeared. 

If a child came up to you and innocently said, "I am a child, and I just want to belong," could you get angry and put that child down in any way? Of course not! What most adults don’t realize is that any child who is misbehaving is subconsciously saying, "I just want to belong, and I have some mistaken ideas about how to accomplish belonging." It takes courage from an adult to recognize the discouragement in a child and to respond with encouragement instead of more discouragement. It is much easier to "react" to the misbehavior with more misbehavior of our own. 

Much of what takes place in homes and classrooms, though intended to encourage, does not foster courage. Adults attempt to motivate change through punishment and reward. Positive results are temporary and usually involve a heavy dose of discouragement. Children may do better to avoid the punishment or to gain the reward, but the price they pay is the loss of an inner locus of control, the loss of self-confidence, and the loss of opportunities to learn life skills. 

Dreikurs emphasized encouragement and taught that it is the most important skill adults can learn in helping children. He said many times, "Children need encouragement, just as plants need water. They cannot survive without it." 

The root word of encouragement is, of course, courage. When we strive to encourage others and ourselves, we are actually helping to develop courage to face life’s challenges and difficulties. Encouragement comes in many forms. Each of the many positive discipline tools is designed to help children feel better (encouraged), so they are motivated to do better.


This post was written by J Nelsen.  For the original post, go to:  http://blog.positivediscipline.com/2014/01/a-misbehaving-child-is-discouraged-child.html


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Resolve to tell others about Jesus

1/10/2014

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If Jesus is the greatest thing ever, then it stands to reason that we should seek to tell others about Him. When we talk about witnessing one of the first things many people will say is that they believe they witness by the life they live. I agree with lifestyle evangelism, but only to a point. I believe that our lives must back up what we claim. Really, this is an extremely critical element of being a witness, and it’s very Biblical. 



However when we use lifestyle evangelism as an excuse not to talk to someone 
personally about Jesus, we have taken this further than the Scriptures do.

There is a snazzy quote people often use to sum up their view of this. It says, “Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words if necessary.” That’s a great bumper sticker. It probably looks great on a coffee mug. And buddy, it’ll get some massive likes as a Facebook status. The only problem with it is the Bible. I once read a statement that said, “Preach the gospel. If necessary use words” is like saying, “Tell me your phone number. If necessary, use digits.” Words are absolutely necessary in sharing the Gospel.

“For “whoever calls on the name of the LORD shall be saved.” How then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher?” Romans 10:13-14 (NKJV)

Paul asks a series of rhetorical questions. These questions are the equivalent to saying, “one cannot unless…” In asking these questions, Paul is emphasizing the necessity of someone clearly explaining the Gospel to others. Whoever calls on the name of the Lord will be saved. However, how can a person call on the Lord if they don’t believe in Him? The reality is they can’t. No one is going to call upon the Lord to save them unless they truly believe that Jesus is the Christ the Son of the living God. Paul goes on and asks how can a person believe in Jesus in order to call on them to save them if they’ve never heard about Him? It’s impossible for someone to believe on someone that they’ve never heard of. Finally, he asks how someone will hear about Jesus if no one tells them. They won’t. They will never hear about Jesus unless someone tells them about Him.

We all work with, live by, or in some way have contact with someone who has never really heard the truth about Jesus. If you and I won’t tell them who will? Chances are, no one will. How sad to think that people we know will die and enter into a Christless eternity because we chose not to tell them about Jesus.

I really think that one reason we are so hesitant to tell others about Jesus is because we are afraid they will ask us questions we don’t have the answers for. The truth is this may well happen. But another truth is that you don’t have to have all the answers to any question they may have for you.

In Mark’s Gospel we are told about a man who was possessed by a demon. He spent his time roaming around naked in a graveyard, screaming and hitting himself with rocks. We don’t know how long this went on, but we know when it ended. It ended when Jesus came on the scene. Jesus cast the demon out and saved this man.

When Jesus left this region this man wanted to come with Him, but Jesus wouldn’t let him. Instead of going with Jesus, Jesus told him to go and tell others what great things God had done for him (Mark 5:19-20). All this guy was told to do was go and tell others what God had done for him. The Bible tells us that everyone was amazed at his testimony. Really, this is all we are expected to do.

There are people who will argue with you until the cows come home. Jesus doesn’t expect us to out argue them. In fact, I’m not real sure anyone is ever won to Jesus through the winning of an argument. However, what you can do is simply tell them what great things God has done for you.

You can tell them what Jesus means to you. You can tell them about the changes Jesus has made in your life. You can tell them about answers to prayer. You can tell them what the Bible says about their need for Jesus. You can show them how to be saved.

All believers need to resolve to tell at least one person about Jesus this year. If Jesus really is the greatest thing that has ever happened to us, then we should seek to introduce others to Him. We can only introduce others to Jesus, if we tell them about Jesus.

This post was written by Rev Ross.  You can find the original post here:  http://stacyjross.wordpress.com/2014/01/04/resolve-to-tell-others-about-jesus/

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Why people leave a church

11/21/2013

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Numbers of gifted persons and organizations have studied the phenomenon of the church “back door,” the metaphorical way we describe people leaving the church. And there will always be the anticipated themes of relocation or personal crises. We should recognize those issues, though we can respond to the latter more than the former.

But all the research studies of which I am aware, including my own, return to one major theme to explain the exodus of church members: a sense of some need not being filled. In other words, these members have ideas of what a local congregation should provide for them, and they leave because those provisions have not been met.

Certainly we recognize there are many legitimate claims by church members of unfulfilled expectations. It can undoubtedly be the fault of the local congregation and its leaders.

But many times, probably more than we would like to believe, a church member leaves a local body because he or she has a sense of entitlement. I would therefore suggest that the main reason people leave a church is because they have an entitlement mentality rather than a servant mentality.

Look at some of the direct quotes from exit interviews of people who left local congregations:

  • “The worship leader refused to listen to me about the songs and music I wanted.”
  • “The pastor did not feed me.”
  • “No one from my church visited me.”
  • “I was not about to support the building program they wanted.”
  • “I was out two weeks and no one called me.”
  • “They moved the times of the worship services and it messed up my schedule.”
  • “I told my pastor to go visit my cousin and he never did.”

Please hear me clearly. Church members should expect some level of ministry and concern. But, for a myriad of reasons beyond the scope of this one blogpost, we have turned church membership into country club membership. You pay your dues and you are entitled to certain benefits.

The biblical basis of church membership is clear in Scripture. The Apostle Paul even uses the “member” metaphor to describe what every believer should be like in a local congregation. In 1 Corinthians 12:12-31, Paul describes church members not by what they should receive in a local church, but by the ministry they should give.

The solution to closing the back door, at least a major part of the solution, is therefore to move members from an entitlement mentality to a servant mentality. Of course, it is easy for me to write about it, but it is a greater challenge to effect it.

May I then offer a few steps of a more practical nature to help close the back door by changing the membership mentality? Here are five:

  1. Inform church members. Though I do not have precise numbers, I would conjecture that more than one-half of church members do not have a biblical understanding about church membership. Providing that information in a new members’ class can move an entire congregation toward a servant mentality.
  2. Raise the bar of expectations. We have dumbed down church membership in many congregations to where it has little meaning. Clarify expectations of members. Again, doing so in the context of a new members’ class is a great way to begin.
  3. Mentor members. Take two or three members and begin to mentor them to become biblical church members. After a season, ask them to mentor two or three as well. Let the process grow exponentially.
  4. Train members. Almost 100 percent of pastors agree that their role is to train and equip members. But almost three-fourths of these pastors have no plans on how they will train them (see Ephesians 4:11-13). I will address this issue more fully on my blog next Wednesday.
  5. Encourage people to be in small groups. Those in Sunday school classes and small groups are more likely to be informed and functioning church members. In others words, there is a much greater likelihood of a member with a servant mentality to be in a small group than not.

What are you doing in your church to close the back door? What are you doing to move members from an entitlement mentality to a servant mentality?


Thom S Rainer wrote this post.  You can find his original post at:  http://thomrainer.com/2013/01/21/the-main-reason-people-leave-a-church/


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Am I a subtle elitist?

11/5/2013

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One of the things that is exciting about being involved in a church plant is the influx of new people coming to know Jesus, seeing miraculous things happening and being energized by new Christians.  It is absolutely thrilling when a person who previously didn't regard Christ as his/her Savior experiences a life-changing decision.  It boosts my faith when these people "who don't know better" really believe that God can do anything.

Having been a Christian for over 40 years, I think that I got this Christian thing down.  I can easily become complacent and lazy.  Yet, these new Christians are an inspiration.  They remind me of how I need to rely more on Christ and less on myself. 

I was in a small group from our church and we were praying for these new people.  I was struck by a thought that I am sure came from God.  I remember thinking, "you don't really believe that these new Christians are gonna make it, do you?"  It was difficult for me to admit that to myself.  But I sensed a further prompting, "tell these people in your small group what you have been thinking."  So I said, "this is hard to say but I'm gonna say it.  I have to confess to the sin of pride, of elitisim.  These new people that we have been praying would come to our church, I have been thinking that they wouldn't last.  That they aren't really gonna make this Christian thing work for them. I've been thinking that they will never be as good of a Christian as I am."  Now, I would like to say that my statements changed somebody but these statements only changed me. 

I am glad that I was brave enough to say out loud what I have been thinking for a while.  It was difficult but humbling.  I didn't experience any condemnation from my small group friends but rather an open discussion about attitudes and how we need to allow God's Holy Spirit to change us from the inside out.

I was thinking about my comments and my attitudes a little later, and I had another thought,
"If these new Christians don't make it, you will be partly to blame.  It is up to you to offer encouragement, discipleship, friendship and support." 

That's one of the many things that I like about the Holy Spirit.  He's direct, to the point and doesn't just blast away at me.  He's sees something that needs to be corrected and all I have to do is listen, trust and obey.  



I'm glad that after being a Christian for all these years, that God hasn't stopped with molding me into the image of Christ. 

If I'm honest and humble, He will do just that.  

He will do the same for you.

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Church isn't for everyone

9/13/2013

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Church leaders do it all the time.

Ask them who they’re trying to reach. Their answer? Everyone.

It sounds appropriate. I get that. What else are you going to say?

After all, the Gospel is for everyone.

But that’s not the question. The question is who is your church designed to reach?

Is your church for everyone? Really?

What if it’s not?

Now, here’s the promise.

What if…the faster you get away from the idea that your church is for everyone, the more effective you will be as a church?

Consider this:

You are currently reaching a segment of the population—not the entire population. I don’t know of a single church that has reached everybody.

The people you’re reaching probably represent a particular demographic. Even if it’s multi-ethnic, or multi-generational, you are likely reaching a segment of people within the broader demographic.

Your church has a style, feel and culture that attracts certain groups. In Western culture, people self-select based on what your organization has to offer, just like Walmart shoppers are different than Nordstrom shoppers.

In addition, the way you do church (a combination of your mission and vision, but even more importantly, your organizational culture and strategy) has an inevitable filtering effect:

Your music is going to attract some people and bother others.

Your teaching style and content is going to connect better with some than others.

The people who already make up your church are more likely to attract others like themselves; like attracts like.

Your location and even the architectural style of the building in which you gather (whether that’s a school, a theater, a gothic cathedral, a contemporary suburban mega-church, an A-frame 50s landmark, or a living room) make some feel at home while pushing others away.

Your leadership style is compelling to some people and not so much for others.

I’m not saying this is the way it should be. I’m just saying this is simply true.

Now don’t miss this.

Far too many church leaders spend their time fighting these realities.

Rather than cooperate with the way people naturally gather, too many leaders resist it.

I agree there are times we need to fight that. A church with no cultural diveristy in a culturally diverse city functions more like a club than a church. And a congregation with only the rich and no people on social assistance worries me. And some churches attract only insiders or an age demographic that makes the future impossible. When I began in ministry, we had mostly handfuls of people over 65 attending the churches in which I served. The future wasn’t bright, nor was the church effective in its mission.

In those cases (and some others) you need to change your culture to reach the broader culture.

But still, are you going to reach everybody?

No.

Now, here’s the promise in an otherwise disconcerting thought-stream:

Your church should be open to everyone, but you will be best at reaching a particular someone.

And that’s okay.

Instead of competing with that, why not co-operate with it?

After all, your church is not the body of Christ. It is part of the body of Christ.

Play your part.

Can you imagine the pressure that will release?

You will no longer have to be all things to all people.

Churches that try to be all things to all people often end up being nothing to no one and lose their effectiveness in the process. Only a few manage to do more than a mediocre job in most areas. The seniors and the young adults and the kids and the teens and the empty nesters and the young marrieds and the singles and the blended families can’t all be equally important. They just can’t be.

Where I serve at Connexus, our vision is to be a church that unchurched people love to attend.

As a result:

We don’t try to please people who want a church for the already convinced.

We’re not worried about reaching Christians who have no passion for friends and neighbours who aren’t in a relationship with Christ.

We don’t feel the pressure to offer 100 programs and in fact often point people to community organizations or neighbouring churches that do much better jobs in those areas. Sometimes we encourge people to find their own way to meet those needs. We focus on the few things that will help us best accomplish our mission.

We feel free to design our Sunday service to create an experience unchurched people want to come back to.

We specifically target the feel of our services and culture to connect with a 30 year old unchurched man, believing that if the man comes, so (gladly) will his family and friends (and often his parents, and sometimes even grandparents).

I realize this is contrary thinking for most people, but for us it’s resulted in reaching more unchurched people than we ever have before (or than many churches in our community and country), with 60% of our growth being from self-identified unchurched people. Which is, after all, kind of why we started the church in the first place. And which maybe why you started or lead your church.

So…rethink this.

Is your church for everyone?

Or is the Gospel for everyone, and your church gets to play a part in that?

What do you think?

This post was written by Carey Nieuwhof.  For the original post, go to: http://careynieuwhof.com/2013/09/why-you-need-to-stop-thinking-your-church-is-for-everyone/#sthash.0kNd5NMo.dpuf

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