Maybe I’m the only one outraged and deeply disturbed by this downward shift in our cultural value system. But it does seem that young people are less respectful than my generation was. They seem to have a perverted concept of what constitutes respect. Many young men today believe they should be respected before they will offer respect. The fallacy in this philosophy is that true respect is earned, not bestowed. When I was young, I would not have even considered being disrespectful to an adult, especially one in a position of authority. Additionally, if I had gotten in trouble in school, I would have suffered not only disciplinary actions from the school, but I would have been punished twice as bad when I got home. I can tell you from talking to and working with teachers, coaches, police officers, and parents that our children are for the most part very disrespectful toward any kind of authority.
This disrespect for authority (parents, teachers, police, etc.) creates a lack of integrity because they have no accountability in their lives. Young men without accountability have no need to be dependable, honest, or trustworthy in their words or actions. Why should they? No one else seems to care.
Teaching boys proper manners is a good start to teaching them to respect themselves and others. Manners and politeness are really just showing respect for other people, even those you do not know. Teach your son the dictionary definition of respect, than look for opportunities help him be respectful in a variety of settings. Most of all, remember that a son best learns respect by observing his father show respect. And a son whose father respects him is more likely to want to respect his father. Boys who’s mothers respect them learn to respect all women.
This post was written by Rick Johnson. You can find the original post here: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/afewgrownmen/2014/02/is-respect-earned-or-given/
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