Another thing I learned from that group conversation from 30+ years ago: most of us are not very self-aware! People were criticized for things that when those of us in the group was criticized for the same stuff caused us to be offended. At times criticizing others makes us feel as though the pressure is off of us. How amazing is it that people who complain about being criticized are at times some of the best critics themselves? I must say that the people doing the talking that day were and are good people. The habit of complaining and criticizing has become so ingrained that it is difficult to recognize it as it is happening. If someone would have stood up and said ‘friends, let us change the subject and start speaking encouragement and blessing to one another.’ I am sure the conversation would have turned more positive. You see we weren’t guarding our hearts very well and we were demonstrating that you may be the average of the people you hang out with! To be self-aware, you have to focus your attention on others and not yourself. Self-awareness comes when I see myself as a person entirely dependent on the grace and mercy of God. Self-awareness is when I understand that there is power in our words, a power to bless and power to curse.
For the past few years, I have asked the Lord to convict me when my words are not edifying. Lord keep my heart tender and sensitive to your voice and sympathetic to the people around me. May people feel more blessed than burdened after coming into contact with me. But mostly Lord, help me to guard my mouth, for in reality everything does flow from my heart.
This post was written by Dr Ron Blake. You can find his original post here: wesleyshorse.com/what-if-it-is-true-you-really-are-like-the-five-people-you-associate-with-the-most/