A husband's position as leader cannot be separated from God's call to submission, and the bondservant model of love can and must serve as our paradigm of leadership. A bondservant loves his master as he loves himself, and he's committed to helping his master fully live and fully blossom as a person.
But my wife is not my master! True, but becoming-one-with-her-essence is your master. You submit your rights in whatever way necessary as leader to attain this, not because she has authority over you, but because you love her. You've been commanded to love her in precisely this way by someone who does have authority over you -- Jesus Christ.
This post is taken from EVERY MAN'S MARRIAGE
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