Comedian Bill Cosby said, “For two people in a marriage to live together day after day is unquestionably the one miracle the Vatican has overlooked.”
He’s got a point.
Once the masks are fully removed and a couple settles into married life with their differing personalities, year after year, it can seem quite miraculous that the relationship endures.
What may even be more phenomenal is that a marriage need not only survive, but it can actually thrive in the face of two differing and headstrong personalities that face off day after day.
Of course, we can’t x-ray a personality, but we can observe it.
Why? Because our personality is evident in our behaviors.
We can deduce something, for example, about a person’s temperament when we notice that they do very careful research before buying a camera. And we can deduce something about personality when we see someone purchase a high-priced gadget on impulse.
Our behaviors reveal our personalities.
And as Yogi Berra so famously said, “You can observe a lot just by watching.” Especially when that “watching” is done around the clock in a marriage.
"In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced." Robert Sexton
Our spouse becomes witness to our traits day-in and day-out. It’s almost as if we are on surveillance without ever intending it. The mere time that marriage consumes cannot help but to make us keen observers of each others’ traits as they become visible in our reactions, our expressions and our behaviors.
So what traits do you think are most consistently seen by your spouse in you?
Make a list of two personality traits, right now, that you think your spouse would note about you, and then test your accuracy by asking each other if you’re right.
This post was written by Drs Les & Leslie Parrott. For more information, go to their website: http://www.lesandleslie.com