The drawings were of voluptuous women that were scantily clad in various positions. I asked how he came to drawing these pictures. He stated as a young boy he was into pornography but had given that up when he discovered he could draw much better women than he could find in any magazine or online.
If that wasn't bad enough, to pick up extra money, he was a girls' volleyball coach. He confessed that some of the inspiration for his pictures came from watching "his girls" on the court, noting that many of the poses in the pictures came from his actual observations.
The reason why he was coming to see me was because he was having marriage problems. "My wife is jealous of my girls." When he said "my girls" not only was he meaning his drawings but he was also meaning his volleyball team.
He wouldn't allow me to talk to his wife, he just wanted me to work with him. The counseling didn't carry on for many sessions. He had extreme difficulty in seeing his self-centeredness and its connection to his artistry. He had difficulty in seeing how dangerous it was for his artistry and his coaching to be coupled together in his mind. He had trouble seeing how his behavior was putting his wife and children on the back burner. Rather, he "didn't want to stifle his creativity." After about 3 or 4 sessions, he stopped coming for counseling.
It wasn't very long after he stopped, I saw in the paper that his wife had filed for a divorce. Later, that same year, I heard two more things about him: he was fighting with his wife over custody of their children and his volleyball coaching contract wasn't renewed.
I'll let you make up your mind how these things came to occur in this man's life.
However, God knows and He tell us:
A man reaps what he sows...
BE A MAN.