The shame and despair that come from the powerlessness and unmanageability help crystallize the core beliefs about sexual unworthiness that are part of the addict's addictive system:
1. I am basically a bad, unworthy person.
2. No one could ever love me as I am.
3. My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others
4. Sex is my most important need
Although these beliefs seem to be common to all who struggle with sexual addictions -- mild or severe -- whether they be men or woman, the addict may not be aware of these core beliefs. He may say that he comes from a very loving family, yet deeper exploration may reveal that his feeling loved is dependent on his being perfect.
This post is intentionally short to give you time to reflect on the four core beliefs and see if they apply to you or someone you love....
Tomorrow, we will delve a bit deeper into this impaired thinking.
The information from this post is taken from COUNSELING FOR SEXUAL DISORDERS
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